Levi Boughn

Feeling Frisky: A Sex and Bike Touring How-To

Nov 12, 2019

“Is that a kickstand, baby, or are you just happy to see me?”

Cringe-inducing pick up lines aside, bicycle touring can be sexy. Most days you’ll be feeling fit, adventurous, and gleeful about your journey. But traveling with your romantic partner can offer its fair share of challenges, too. Let’s face it: saddle sores and fatigue aren’t exactly sexy.

If you’re planning a bicycle tour with your romantic partner, here are five tips for keeping your sex life alive while traveling together.

1. Keep it clean.

This is my #1 piece of advice for women on a bike tour, and it works for managing your monthly period as well as preventing UTIs. Hygiene wipes are your friend: keep them handy, and use ‘em. Wiping yourself and your partner with hygiene wipes before and after intimacy will reduce your chances of getting a bacterial infection.

2. Lubricate!

Yup, just like your bike chain...but not with the same lubricant. Your genitalia is already experiencing some extra chaffng from being in a bike saddle all day, so treat yourself to a water-based lubricant before intercourse. The less friction in your life the better.

3. Get a room.

If you’ve been camping or staying with friends for weeks on end, it might be time to splurge and get a hotel room. This added luxury can be a welcome relief from sleeping on the ground, and it’s more private than your friend’s living room couch. And, you know, when the two of you are freshly showered, well-rested, and all alone together, things can happen.

(But, no pressure: if you’re not in the mood, just enjoy a good night’s sleep. Rest and relaxation are essential to feeling your best.)

4. Take some space.

After days, weeks, or even months of being witness to each other’s triumphs and challenges, it’s a good idea to take a break from each other. Rest days are an excellent time to do this, with one person going for a sightseeing hike and the other lounging at a coffee shop.

There’s plenty of compromises when you’re on a bike tour with someone, and taking some time to focus on yourself will help you appreciate your partner all the more once you’re reunited.

5. Be kind.

I know this sounds simple, but after pedaling 75 miles through sloppy rain only to discover that your partner accidentally misinterpreted the map and you’ll have to pedal an extra ten miles to get to the campground...it can be hard not to scream in frustration.

But kindness is the best aphrodisiac. So refrain from chewing out your partner on the side of the road (trust me, they already feel terrible), and practice your best compassion. You might not feel like getting frisky that night, but a little mindfulness during the hard times is always attractive. Just sayin’.

Here’s to breathless nights, slow mornings, and fond gazes between you and your cycling sweetheart. We hope you enjoy the ride!


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Camelia Negrau April 28, 2020, 6:58 AM

Lovely article! I have a tip though. If you can get your hands on something called Gynella Silver Foam- grab 4 of them. They are so useful. I had problems after long bike rides because sweaty bum + tight cycling short= ticket to bacteria infection. The silver foam is very good. My gyno recommended it and I swear by it. I was able to find it in Romania though, as it's a Czech product.

Jim Sweet November 16, 2019, 11:47 PM


I'm a San Francisco Sex Information (sfsi.org) Trained Sex Educator and was very pleased to come across your post.

I have one or two things to add here and they mainly apply to the LBGT+ community.

What Olivia said rings true for any couple, regardless of their gender(s).

More importantly, you need to be aware of where you are and what the reaction *might* be towards the LGBT+ community. Public displays of affection may be perfectly normal where you live but Mc Donalds in Hazard, Kentucky? Probably not.

It would be nice to think that tolerance is universal, but the reality is quite different so use your head and be aware of what the "climate" is where you're traveling.

Mozelle May 31, 2020, 6:32 PM

Mr. Sweet thank you for mentioning the whole aspect of being a cyclist, a memver of the LGBTQ community and the hazards we face while bicycle touring. Showing signs fo affection would not be something I would do just so I could make sure my riding partner is safe as well as my safety. As a female cyclist and a long time memeber fo the LGBTQ community I choose which battles I fight and which I save for another day. Again, thank you.

LAURA KILLINGBECK November 13, 2019, 10:06 AM

Awww I love this article! Hilarious and useful. Definitely going to experiment with that pick-up line. :)

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